Aunty Marmalade helps.

 

 

Dear Aunty Marmalade.

 

For the past 18 months I have been in a gorgeous relationship with a man that I totally adore and worship but I have a hidden secret.

I have had the same best friend for around 10 years, we are as close as 2 best friends can ever be and I cant ever imagine her not in my life. She gets on well with my boyfriend and we all go out as a 3’sum’ often. We all have fantastic fun together!

My secret is that I am in love with my female best friend and don’t know how to deal with my feelings or what I should do. I have always been straight but these feelings are beginning to un-nerve and scare me. Should I act upon them?

Every time I look at her I get goose bumps but at the same time every time I look at him my heart melts!

Sincerely,

Confused of the Wirral.

 

Dear Confused of the Wirral.

 

 There are many actions you can take to solve your predicament but its up to you, which you choose. The problem you have is that your experiencing feelings for the same sex despite you being dead sure that you are straight. Many people go through the same thing so there is no need to start thinking you’re the only one. The main thing to do is be true to your self. Who do you see yourself being with in the future? It may be that these feelings for your best friend are more excitement for the unknown and it maybe that if one day you do experience an intimate encounter with her once may turn out to be enough, like satisfying a craving. You must be true and honest to yourself. If the time comes that you need to break with the man you are seeing remember it will be as bigger shock to him as it was to you when you discovered the feelings for your best friend.

I do need to ask the question, is your best friend straight? If she is it may be a none starter and you could end up not having either of them. You need to make sure before making any rash decisions.

I would suggest sitting alone and looking at some magazines first of men then of women. This may help you to decide which sex you prefer.

Alternatively, you could be brave, confront them both and see if they would be willing to have a sexual encounter altogether. This may help to make up your mind either way and it will also give you both things you want and desire but be careful, This option comes with a lot of emotional baggage so be prepared and don’t take it to light heartedly.

Whichever option you chose to make, make sure its right for you first. You must have your own interests at heart first before you can help others to understand and be ok with your decisions. I wish you luck with your dilemma, please feel free to contact me again in the future.

Regards

Aunty Marmalade x